About Me

I go by the name of Marla currently studying at University of St. La Salle, taking up AB Communication, I play badminton occasionally (for my P.E. class), I like surfing the net (social net working), and I also like watching T.V., I love reading books especially the novels of Paulo Coelho and Mitch Album. These authors influence me on how I see life. That life would be complicated if you think that way, that we just need to look out side of the box to see a much simpler and more accurate solution to our problems. We usually ignore the things that matters most in life, our family, friends, the laughter, the lesson we learned on our journey, the blessing that we receive, etc. We focus too much on material things that we forgot the real essence of life; life has a lot to offer, we just need to learn to appreciate it we should learn to count our blessing (count the things that you already have not the things the you don't have). This realization made me strong willed person, goal-oriented, optimistic, and full of hope.  On the other hand, I hide my real emotion by joking around as if nothings wrong, defense mechanism that I learned in the process of maturity, simply because I don't want to spread my negative aura, so I change my negative aura to positive. I don't let my problems get the best of me, I believe that problem and mistake are part of our development as a person.


--by the way I put the music video because it tells us that each person has his/her own characteristics and i like the song.<3

Communication Differences

 

What do you think about the differences of communication of the boy’s and the girls? Well, for me I find it really funny, can you imagine we live in the same place (country) and still we couldn’t understand what the opposite sex is trying to say to us. We girls should not expect that the guys will act in the way that we will act in a certain situation or interact with others the way we do. Here are some differences in communication between male and female:

Ø  Women are more likely to talk to other women when they have a problem. Men keep their problems to themselves and don’t see the point in sharing personal issues.

Ø  If women have a disagreement with each other it affects all aspects of their relationship.

Ø  Men only nod their heads when they agree. Women tries to justify why she agree on it.

Ø  Men can have a disagreement, move on to another subject. But female has what I call the repeat syndrome (I’m Guilty), We tend to repeat and repeat the topic until we had enough for the day, but the next time you did something wrong, I will remind of what you did.

See what I mean! These are some of the differences between the male and the female communication. Men has their own style in communication and we have are own, so it’s best to meet half way and try to understand each other to avoid miss-communication.

    

Debate Blog

Host: A pleasant day to all! Today were going to discuss on who is responsible for our understanding in a certain topic. Is it the listener or the speaker?  And to give us clarity regarding this issue we have invited some guest. Today we have (me) Juan, a self profess “active listener”.  And joining her is (me) Too, also a self profess “effective speaker”. This discussion is going to be tough. Let’s start        with (me) Juan.

 (me) Juan:  Good day to all! As a listener myself I believe that it is that listener responsibility to understand or catch up with the speaker. I know that it takes a hard work to be an active listener;  we must be able to do this:

v  We should apply the massage to our self.

v  Pick out the key word.

v  You must analyze and interpret the message carefully.

v  We must provide a feed back to the speaker (it could be facial expression or sound effects). To encourage the speaker.

Like what I just said being an active listener is a hard work. But it is our responsibility to comprehend what the speaker is saying.

Host: Now let’s give the floor to (me) Too.

 (me) Too: Greetings every one! I know that miss (me) Juan has a very strong point, but I’m going to disagree with her. I believe that it is the speaker’s responsibility to make the listener understand what his talking about. An effective speaker must do these things.

v  The speaker must make eye contact to the people his talking.

v  The speaker must elaborate the point.

v  The speaker must show honest emotion (be natural).

v  The speaker must use some gesture to help the people understand you better.

Being an effective speaker requires knowledge and skills to be able to deliver his message well. That‘s why it’s the speakers responsibility to make sure that the people understand what he/she talking about.

Host: now let’s hear what the verdicts decision.

Verdict: Both of them said very strong point regarding this topic. And after much deliberation we decide that it’s tie.  We think that it’s both the speaker and listener responsibility to understand the topic. Both of them play a major rule in comprehension. If one of them is missing there will be an imbalance in comprehension.

Host: And that’s how we end the show I hope you have fun.

Dreams Do Come True

Sometimes we are over power by a persons appearance that we tend to forget or consider their ability/capabilities. A perfect example of this is Susan Boyle . She is a victim of misjudgment/stereotyping of the people(vulture). But all of that change when she stared singing, they were all shock that a 47 year old woman has a voice that could change the perception of a person towards others (make you re-evaluate yourself). After her performance on the song "I dream A dream" (from Les Misérables) she receive a standing ovation from the people who doubted her in the beginning. From that moment on she felt accepted and got her worth as a person. I'm just one of the millions of people who was inspired by her, she made me realize that it's never to late for our dreams to come true. I may not have achieve something as big as hers, but  I will continue dreaming that someday they will see my worth as person.

Manifestation

We usually base our judgment on the persons appearance, the color of the skin, the way his eyes, nose,lips,ears match to his face, and sometimes it is the basis of a persons  intelligence. And who's to blame ? Non other than the media. It totally change the whole concept of beauty that BEAUTY= POWER (FAME) + RESPECT and with that formula you are "untouchable". That's the reason why we keep on seeking ways on how to enhance our beauty or maintain our youth. Instead of helping us improve our self-esteem, it  only gives us pressure to look "nice" to blend with the society and it doesn't matter if your girl or boy (actually, boys are vain as girls but they don't show it.).I will not be hypocrite! I admit that I'am one of those insecure beings who wanted to be beautiful to attract attention and just blend with the rest of the world!. I grew up feeling beautiful because family always says so and I believe them. But that change when I reach my teenage years, "the time of insecurity".Those are the years were I think that beauty  is important because I always think that beauty is equal to brain and good attitude that the physical appearance of a person reflects it's identity or whatever. That's why I started comparing the features of  the pretties girl in school to mine and after that I was left with nothing just pity for myself and a feeling that I'm the ugliest girl in school. I know it's wrong to compare but I can't help it. Until one day with my  immature mind I snap out of it. I told myself that I don't need to be tall, have a perfect complexion and a beautiful face to belong I just need a "PERSONALITY"  and to understand that there is more to beauty than meets the stranger's eye.Also I don't need to belong to be accepted and loved.
 -Remember that what matters most is what's inside you (the beauty that never fades).

--by the way I post a video by Selena Gomez, the song was intended to inspire people, primarily, the people who feel neglected and out-cast.

Accent Discrimination (Ethnocentrism)

As society progresses our way of living also progresses, and a big part of this is technology (computer, cellphones, laptops, etc.).  The advancement of technology really made our life much easier; it's just unfortunate how we use that technology to harm others. Ethnocentrism popularly known as "racial discrimination". It is something that exist way back technology was born. Do you know what's the difference of  discrimination in the past and now?, in the past  they don't have what you call "technology", back then you can not do it worlds apart but now it's different. Here's how ,my sister work's at a call-center as an agent she receives about 35+ calls in 8 hours and when she comes home she usually complain how stressful her work is and she keeps on talking about the callers (client). Once she told us that there was a Australian guy who told her " I'm getting Frustrated!, because every time I call your company I always end up with an Asian Race" (hung-up) ,there was also a time when a guy ask her "your accent is funny, are an Malaysian, Indian, Filipino?, "I'm a Filipino sir, so what can I do for you?", " you mother f*****, Stupid B****, you connect me with an Australian, I don't want to talk to those who belong to the 3rd world society!". Sometimes when a caller hear that she has a different accent than what they have automatically they curse her then hung-up. Can you imagine it, they discriminate a person base on the accent they can't even see, feel, smell or even taste her, it's sad that the accent of a person gives them the right to judge, step or use profane language to them. All I know is that these people who discriminate other culture are un-happy people; that the only way that they could feel good to their self is to hurt others. PITY!!

this is it!!!

Civilization just hit me now!!!,,finally i decided to create my own blog, you see i'm not use writing on a blog i'm more of a   "notebook-girl" (low-tech)..but not anymore..., So, i'm gonna leave now and when i come back i'm gonna write something that has a sense... chow for now..=)